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The relationships we have in our lives (whether these are with boyfriends or girlfriends) form a corner stone of our experiences of the world. It is therefore very important that the relationships we have and enter into are healthy and beneficial ones for us and our well being. Having respect within any relationship we have is therefore very important. Whether these are heterosexual, gay, lesbian or transgender relationships, to have respect for our partners and be respected by them is the foundation of a strong and healthy relationship. The belief in equality and the right of every person to be free to choose who they see and who they want to be in a relationship with is an important cornerstone of our society. This allows us to have the freedom to make our own choices and decisions without pressure from others. However, as young people, especially if you are under the age of 16, there are a couple of things you need to know and be aware of. The age of consent is the age at which someone is considered by the law to be old enough to agree to have sex with someone. Whether you agree with it or not, in the UK this is 16 years old. As young people it is good advice to listen and take advice from others, even though you might think you know a lot about relationships, other people’s advice and experiences (i.e. friends or family) will help you in making informed choices and decisions in your life, i.e. knowing the facts and having information and skills which allow you to make free and independent choices of your own. The first step in life is always to respect yourself. This will not only improve the life you lead, but will also reduce the chances of others taking advantage and treating you badly. But if you ever experience abuse in any relationship, it’s never your fault. There is never an excuse for abuse. What is Relationship Abuse? Relationship abuse is any type of abuse which happens within a relationship and done by a partner, boyfriend or girlfriend. It’s basically the same as domestic violence, but doesn’t necessarily happen in the home or done within the family. It means that a partner abuses their partner through threats, violence (including hitting, kicking etc), is being rough with someone, cruel or trying to control them or who they see. See the ‘Relationship Abuse’ page on this website for more information about relationship abuse, how it can happen and what you can do about it. Downloads What is a healthy relationship?: This download gives some of the key things to help think about what kind of relationship you have with your boyfriend/girlfriend and whether it may be abusive. Relationship Checklist: This simple check list provides a few key questions you need to ask yourself about any relationship you may be in. They ask about jealousy, violence, control etc and can help you think about whether a relationship you are in is a healthy or unhealthy one or one which may lead to abuse. Links The hide out is a great website designed for young people to give them information, advice and support about domestic abuse/violence and how it can affect the family. This is a great website designed for young people which explores everyone’s right to a life free from violence, abuse and threat. Website for 12-16 year olds – including confidential online advice about a range of issues from and offering advice and support if you're worried about something and need some help. There 4 U can help with loads of issues like abuse, bullying, exams, drugs and self harm. Website created by the NSPCC which offers a range of advice and support to young people about a range of issues. |
